How To Argue The Right Way With Your Partner

Even the healthiest relationships have fights. As a matter of fact it is shown that arguing (in the right way) can make your relationship stronger. In marriages with no arguments, it is 35 percent more likely to end in divorce.
It is human nature to feel betrayed or by your partner if they do not see things the way you do. It is also our natural instinct to retaliate when we feel hurt or threatened. Learning to calm this instinct and work through things with your partner is important for a stable and fair relationship.
Here are some tips on the "right way" for you and your partner to argue.
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1. Use "I feel" statements instead of "you don't".

You have to try to express how something makes you feel with out making your partner feel attacked. Instead of saying "You don't do this enough" say "I love it when you do this more."

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2. Do not take off or avoid fixing the issue.

Until an issue is really resolved, it will just keep coming back up over and over. You have to make your relationship more important than anything and your partner needs to feel heard. Sit down and talk about things. 

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3. Know that it is ok to agree to disagree.

The point of arguing is to resolve things, not make your partner agree with your opinion. If you just can not seem to agree on an issue, you have to meet in the middle. Come to a solution that works for both of you.

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When you find yourself in an argument with your partner, remember that you are fighting to improve things. Fighting should never be done to damage the relationship. Love is all about caring abut the other person's happiness. You have to vow to always put each other's feelings first.
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-Miss Toria